To Hate, or Not to Hate?

Hello Internet!

WOW. I am officially writing my first 'real talk' blog post!

Real talk posts are going to posts which I feel that I can connect with you (the readers and audience). Therefore they should be on things that can help, and you may also be able to invest in, in the future as you go through similar things...

ANYWAY

Due to very recent events in my life, I feel like it is necessary to write about the topic of hate/ dislike!

I will be covering the following:

• What exactly is hate?

• How do we overcome hate?

• Do we give hate back?

What exactly is hate?

From this amazing place called the Oxford Dictionary I have found a pretty bland definition for hate. But don’t fret! We’re going to break it down.

Now the definition states;

– To feel intense dislike for

Example sentence: ‘the boys hate each other’

Hate in itself is a very very very strong word. My whole life my mum has always told me not to say hate but instead to say that you dislike. I feel like the word hate is used too much. Even as a society, hate is used so casually that it’s actually become the norm to say – as though it means nothing. Hate in itself is a bias view on a person, object or situation, I believe. I also believe that as humans we all mentally categorize events and people so that we know to avoid whatever it may be.

Now personally, I don’t know the root causes of all hate. But from what I do know, hate never starts in that way. Hate always is rooted from jealousy and or a love at some point. What I mean by love isn’t the whole ‘lovey-dovey’ kind of love. But what I mean is the love in a friendship of some shape or form. To hate someone or something, one must experience it. I believe this fluctuation to be true. For example, I ‘hate’ marmite. I had to of tasted the marmite to not like it – do you follow what I am saying? You have to experience something personally; whether it be physically or emotionally. Now marmite isn’t the best example, but I hope your trying to see what I’m getting at…

How do we overcome hate?

Forgiveness. That is the thing in which you must do. If you cannot forgive, then you cannot move on. However I do not think that the saying ‘forgive and forget’ is accurate. Yes you should forgive, but you shouldn’t forgive. What I mean is that you should never forget what event has occurred; but you should move on from it. Don’t hold it against a person, but let it go (no I’m not referencing frozen). If we do not forgive, we will seek revenge. By wishing to seek revenge, we instantaneously start to poison ourselves. Now I don’t mean physical poison, but more of a spiritual type. Now what I mean by this is that hatred effects the soul. It makes one angry, and anger always leads to seek of revenge. Revenge is not good.

As you give revenge, it may feel good – really you’re just making yourself and the situation even worse. This is not what you want, at all. Revenge is a short term solution to make an even longer problem. In life I have noticed personally, revenge gets no one nowhere. I mean you only have to watch the news every now and again to get the gist of what I’m saying…

Do we give hate back?

No. Never. Be positive. Be the bigger person and move on. Don’t hold grudges and don’t hold anything against the person or event. Remember, but move on. The more accepting you are of the situation and quicker you are from moving on – the better person you become. Love everyone and everything (except marmite) and trust me on this – if everyone on this planet let go and moved on without any vengeance…The world would be a better place

So what can I take away from today?

Good question you ask! Yes I said it not you – just go with it please. Anyway, this is practically what I more or less want you to take away:

• Hate marmite

• Hatred effects the mind and soul (if you’re not the spiritual type – just effects the mind)

• Do not seek revenge

• Remember the problem but be big enough to move on with a new clean slate

• Try to not hold grudges

• ALWAYS BE POSITIVE

Now this isn’t supposed to be a do and don’t list, because at the end of the day – I don’t control you. But if you take on board what I say and maybe even put it into action…you’re the first step into making the world a better place!

Thank you for reading!

See you around (:

xoxo